Parenting Thoughts: On Struggles

Parenting Thoughts: On Struggles

Any time you’re caught in a power struggle, drop your end of the tug of war rope, and then take time to think about how you want to handle the situation. As always, return to the key questions: What is the child learning from the situation? What do I want him to learn? How can I best make that learning happen?

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Parenting Thoughts: Watch your “BUT...”

Parenting Thoughts: Watch your “BUT...”

It’s helpful to first convey understanding their needs and desires. Conveying that you understand children’s (or adults’!) perspectives helps them feel supported so that they are more ready to receive the next part of your message.

Starting out with a command or correction makes children (or adults!) feel attacked, so they’ll respond defensively with protest or argument rather than listening to what you have to say next.  Starting out with a statement of understanding helps children (I’m not going to say it but you know who else) feel that you’re an ally, so they can stay relaxed and open to your next comments.

This post covers the one-word switch that will take you from attack to understanding.

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How foreshadowing can help prepare your young child for what's coming

How foreshadowing can help prepare your young child for what's coming

Ever handle a situation badly because it didn’t go as you’d expected?  This happens to your toddler all the time!  While we can’t prepare them for every aspect of a situation, we can tell them a little bit about what to expect. 

This post shares a technique called foreshadowing and how it can help you help your toddler understand what's going to happen.

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The Problem with Time Outs

The Problem with Time Outs

The parent of a two year-old recently asked me about time out.  Her baby-sitter uses time out with all the children, but this parent wasn’t sure about it.  Does time out work?  what’s the right age to start? The answer is that there is helpful time out and unhelpful time out.

Unhelpful time out is the modern version of “Go stick your nose in the corner.”  This is the kind of time oust where a child must go to a time oust chair or room and stay there until an adult allows him to get up.  this kind of time oust is a punishment, and it had several pitfalls.
 

Read more to find out what they are and how to help your child get calm and centered.

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