Parenting Thoughts: Watch your “BUT...”

Parenting Thoughts: Watch your “BUT...”

It’s helpful to first convey understanding their needs and desires. Conveying that you understand children’s (or adults’!) perspectives helps them feel supported so that they are more ready to receive the next part of your message.

Starting out with a command or correction makes children (or adults!) feel attacked, so they’ll respond defensively with protest or argument rather than listening to what you have to say next.  Starting out with a statement of understanding helps children (I’m not going to say it but you know who else) feel that you’re an ally, so they can stay relaxed and open to your next comments.

This post covers the one-word switch that will take you from attack to understanding.

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